Change Comes with episodic, then chronic migraine
Coping
Gratitude
Today has been a good day, and it still is. For that I’m thankful. It’s not that I wasn’t grateful in the past for the good things and times in life, but now I’m much more aware of each one when it happens or occurs to me. I’m still afraid sometimes and pissed off, sad and anxious, but like Scarlet O’Hara, I somehow believe, “tomorrow is another day.”
Grace and hope
I’m not really a practicing Christian, but I believe in grace. I believe in the gift of a good day or even a good hour. And I believe in hope. I always have. I was reminded of those two important words recently by a close friend. I hang on to them, and I try to remember them.
Staying tuned in
I pay more attention to how I’m feeling right now and try to honor those feelings and do what I need to do to support myself. I don’t always succeed.
Yesterday, Saturday, I left the house at 9:30 am to meet and share with a group of artist friends. I was feeling so so, a little headachy and nauseated, but I wanted to go. After I got home at 2:30, I really wanted to go prowl my local beach for beach glass and sniff the salt water, so I went for a walk. After I got home, I just had to see what I could make with my collection of found objects, so I played around intently for an hour or more. When I finally came up for air, I realized I was about done for, with headache and fatigue building. I needed to eat NOW. So I threw some dinner together and ate. This was all good stuff, but it was just too much on a day (like all days) when I needed to pay close attention.
This is, still, a tough one. Because when I’m in the timeless flow of working on a project, it’s a fine thing. The work takes the upper hand and I’m enveloped in the process without any sense of beginning or end. This is important moment to moment, and to interfere or step back means you lose a creative opportunity.
Leaving blame behind
When I mess up like this, I don’t blame myself although I used to. Overall my inclination is to forget myself, so to speak. I am learning, ever so slowly, to remember myself moment to moment.
Honesty and openness
I’m more open now about how I’m really feeling. When people ask, I usually tell them, the short form. Most people don’t want more. Writing this blog has become a way for me to tell the world who and how I am. The good, the bad and the ugly. While there’s much about my life I leave out, my family for instance, the migraine part sees the light of day now. I’m not hiding it or behind it.